In June of 2011, I came across an interesting article on CNN.com, titled, How to Respond to Online Haters. It’s a comprehensive article that involves more than blogs or personal websites. It talks about anyone that uses Facebook, Tweeter, and so on. Meaning everyone is touched by these cretins. Back then I wrote about how it applies to ryansrally.org a few days later. Today’s post expands on that original post.
I need to tell you, I read that CNN article with a great deal of interest, both then and today. It rings entirely true right here on our website. It’s about those trolls that pop in-and-out looking to cause a reaction by making vengeful comments.
As you know, this website has these sorts.
The CNN article validated what I thought all along about these characters. These are people who are:
- wanting to cause a reaction,
- jealous they don’t have a popular social platform,
- hiding in the shadows (probably behind a dumpster too),
- using the success of another’s blog to make their point, and
- crying to be noticed, they crave attention.
Take a second to look at those five points again. I’ll wait.
Well? What do you think?
First, their “opinions” carry zero weight with me. I know the truth and there’s nothing they can say that can hurt me. Further, do they really believe they will sway anyone’s opinion? It’s crazy when their comments are often longer than my post. The courtroom was packed with people and media. They know the truth too, and are not shy about sharing it. Really, if push comes to shove, anyone can buy the trial and sentencing transcripts. So, for those who like to counter with that tired adage, There’s three sides to every story, yours, theirs, and the truth, then let’s stick to the truth; that suits me fine! Just fine, indeed! The facts will give what is needed to know the truth. No need for anyone to play detective here.
Second, I’m not inclined to block these people. Why? Simple. The website explodes with activity when they enter they conversation. Beyond this, I can feel the loyalty of readers strengthening. Think about it, some of the most commented posts I’ve written had very little to do with my actual post, and almost everything to do with an inappropriate comment. So, yes, it’s good to know how to
deal with use haters… but never become one.
Still, sometimes these haters cross-the-line and must be blocked. These rare comments add no value and their evil intent is transparent. There only reason is to incite anger and astonishment. These
never rarely make it on the website. I use them if, and when, I want; like today.
Allow me to give you two examples from this week. More specifically, from my last two posts:
- On post, A Panorama of Ryan’s Room: Nice looks like a sweet room for a retard 😉 awesome job!!
- On post, Therapy Achievement: Nine Miles Biked! It has nothing to with Ryan allegedly being made of “the right stuff” that’s keeping him alive, it’s the modern medicine and all that other machines and bullshit you dump tons of money into that’s keeping him alive. And if he was really made of “the right stuff” he would be able to take a punch. Then again Ken seems to be a real big pussy so it makes sense his son would crumble like a wet tissue from one punch lol. I mean comeon the kids never gonna come out of that coma or whatever it is. Your better off making a Mr. Potatohead and calling it Ryan at least then youd save some money. The kid is missing half his brain there’s no way he’s making a recovery from that. IMO you should’ve let him die in the beginning, then Austin and John would still be in prison and you’d have less to bitch about. Also the pictures you have up of him look disgusting do you really think your son would want all those embarrassing ugly pictures of him blasted all over the Internet, doubt it.
As for the above two comments, like similar others, I just brush them off with the knowledge that I’m really pissing them off. I like that! A lot!
I wonder if they even know that their hate-filled words don’t even see the light of day on this website… unless, that is, I want to exploit them? All it takes is one such comment from someone with bogus credentials and I throw a block up. From then on, when they hit “Submit Comment” it automatically is directed into an archive folder that only I can see (if I care to look, which is seldom) and never it bothers the readers.
Even so, let this be my one and only acknowledgement that they are well advised to be very careful they don’t cross the line.
Don’t get me wrong, I will never understand why they are mean to a victim, his family, and his supporters. They are nothing more than virtual bullies and abusers, in my opinion. I’m not sure how it escapes them, but they have yet to realize Team Diviney is not weak and submissive. We’re not the type to be picked on; let’s face it, we’re much smarter (and this is exactly what is needed with online interaction). It takes more than them hiding behind the internet, or so they think (this will be the topic of a future post), for us to take them seriously. For now, we’ll just keep an eye on them and giggle at their antics. What they say is not relevant, but I am happy to use it to keep Ryan so. To me, I think of them as my minions. I really do.
So, I guess in a weird way, thank you. Then again, I really don’t need their help. As the youngsters like to say (and I find particularly annoying)… Whatever!
Dr. Diane Hamilton (see related article below) describes it as a lack of “Emotional Intelligence” in her article. From the way these people write, it’s obvious they also lack cognitive intelligence too. Well, at least a poor grasp on spelling, punctuation, persuasion, logic, and grammar. Stay in school, Kids!
Really, most people just don’t think that way (do they?). I wish I believed it’s not personal but I know it is. This is not a problem. I wonder if they are like this with every other person in the world. It wouldn’t surprise me. No, not in the least.
I believe they hate because others (Ryan, my family, and Team Diviney as a whole) are loved.
A comment from the original version of this post that I especially enjoyed:
Paula: “… you’re right — it’s a great way to get a dialogue going here, because — anyone says anything inane, antagonistic, or ugly towards our boy or his family is going to get it. No, not with fists, because we are not uncivilized, cowardly barbarians who commit criminal acts against innocent people. Those kinds of morally compromised reprobates wind up in jail, just where they belong. Oh, they may get out of jail, but when a person does something so heinous and never strives to make it right with the person they attacked — it follows them every step of their lives.”
Here’s a healthy outlet for you. Please sign and recruit as many people as possible to sign the Anti-Parole Petition. This is how we deal with problems, not by creeping on websites and making hateful comments.
- The Haters: Three Ways to Nuke a Hater (socyberty.com)
- Generation of Haters Hiding Behind Social Media Anonymity (drdianehamilton.wordpress.com)