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Father’s Day: It’s Not Fair!

June 20, 2016 by Ryan's Rally LLC 20 Comments

Yesterday was Father’s Day. I was acutely aware of it the instant I decided to get Ryan out of bed in the morning. For me, I did everything as normal… except for one thing.

I turned off my smartphone, closed my computer, and set the television remote control aside. My reason was simple, but I was certain I wouldn’t be able to articulate it. Fortunately, the very first post in my newsfeed — from another who grieves on special occasions — will do it for me. Well, it will do half of the explaining for me. It was written by one of Ryan’s longest friends who lost her father, Katie Mesmer.

These days have a way of sneaking up. The milestones. The holidays. The aching hole that, most days, you can convince yourself isn’t there. You’re okay, just strolling along, laughing at a GIF on Twitter or texting your best friend about something that happened to you. Everything is fine. It’s just another day. Until it isn’t. Until the calendar tells you. Until Facebook shows you photos of everyone celebrating. Until Instagram reminds you of your inability to take a new photo with him. Until Father’s Day Groupon emails taunt you with great deals on gifts you don’t need. – Katie Mesmer.

Yes, what Katie said is profound. She said this so perfectly that it reaches the soul of every child who has lost an exceptional parent. But, she expressed the reverse… a parent who has lost an extraordinary child.

Unlike Katie, I avoided this “social media heartache” by cutting it off (mostly) before it started. I isolated myself so forcefully that I didn’t even turn the lights on in the house.

Okay, so that’s half of it. That part hurts like unholy hell.

Still, this year was different. On top of this despair, I was flat-out offended and angry.

I lost all respect for the day. How, I wondered, can I reconcile that certain “dads” get equal accolades. I speak of those who, in my opinion, have failed at fatherhood. Take Robert (Bob) Vantrease, for example. He fathered and raised his son, Austin Vantrease, into a violent felon. He, for one, surely isn’t worthy of reaping the praise of Father’s Day. The results of all three of his offspring speaks clearly… Bob Vantrease sucked at it.

In the name of Dads far-and-wide, I would call for his testicles to be revoked, but we’d have to pry them out of his pussy-whippin’ wife’s purse. In case I wasn’t clear, what I’m saying is that Bob is a wimp and his wife (Pattie “Gale” Vantrease) is an aggressive bruiser. In case you’ve never seen Bob or Gale, let’s use the words of George Orwell as an indication, “At 50, everyone has the face [they] deserve”.

Anyhow, having the likes of Bob Vantrease lumped in with me on Father’s Day has rubbed me entirely the wrong way for years. It was hard, but I could (somewhat) look past it because it wasn’t him who physically kicked the existence from my son.

What I simply cannot excuse is having Austin Vantrease on equal footing with me in any way… ESPECIALLY dad related items.

Austin Vantrease and Stephanie Mendez [Source: Stephanie Mendez, Facebook, December 2015]

Austin Vantrease and Stephanie Mendez [Source: Stephanie Mendez, Facebook, December 2015]

For that rat-bastard, he gets to experience a day that I once held nearly sacred. This is his first Father’s Day.

Must Read! Click to read my article from January (it will open in a separate window/tab): Say it Ain’t So! Austin Vantrease: Baby Daddy?

I wonder if he now feels the hurt that his attack reigned down on my child?… and me as a father? From all I know of him and his behavior, he’s still completely clueless.

While I’m at calling out awful parents, I say this to Stephanie’s, “What in the hell is wrong with your rearing skills? You instilled your daughter’s bottom-dwelling standards; to willingly become impregnated by a monster… and risk an innocent child to known violence against those unable to defend themselves… like a child?”

You must be so proud.

As that child’s grandparents you’d be wise to never forget that he kicked an unconscious man in the head over a sports team; how long will it be until his child sets off his impulsive violence?

So, for me, I denounce Father’s Day because of its indiscriminate well-wishing of a productive ejaculate. While I’m at it, there are a few leaders in the history of our country that I deem unworthy… so screw President’s Day too!


Please don’t forget Ryan’s Wish List! With people being busy in the summer months, it is always the toughest time of the year.

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Filed Under: News Tagged With: Austin Vantrease, Bob Vantrease, Father's Day, Gale Vantrease, Katie Mesmer, Patti Vantrease, Stephanie Mendez

Comments

  1. Ann H Tearle says

    October 11, 2017 at 10:11 AM

    Just thinking of you guys………xo

    Reply
  2. Ann H Tearle says

    September 22, 2017 at 9:54 PM

    Happy Birthday 09/21 Sweet man, a day late. Ryan, Lots of love and always in my prayers, Annie

    Reply
  3. Ann H Tearle says

    September 15, 2017 at 3:49 PM

    HELLO FROM ANNIE. Love and prayers SHSP NGA – sent some things for your birthday, honey. Still keep you guys uppermost in my prayers each day. xo

    Reply
  4. sonia says

    July 10, 2017 at 3:18 AM

    Thinking of you guys!

    Reply
  5. nsimpso2 says

    June 20, 2017 at 10:36 PM

    Thinking of you all

    Reply
  6. Robert Watson says

    June 16, 2017 at 7:32 AM

    still checking in….

    Reply
  7. Mike B says

    April 26, 2017 at 12:25 PM

    Still think about you all from time to time…

    Reply
  8. Nicole S says

    April 19, 2017 at 8:26 PM

    Just wanted to write and let you know I am thinking of you all. Sending love your way.
    Nicole

    Reply
  9. Ann H Tearle says

    April 16, 2017 at 12:58 PM

    Hey Team Diviney! SH NGA Still in my daily prayers with lots of love. Annie

    Reply
  10. Ann H Tearle says

    March 4, 2017 at 12:55 PM

    Hi, Team Diviney – SHSP NGA – sending love and healing vibes to Ryan, you, Ken, Kari and Sue……thinking of you and always with love – Annie

    Reply
  11. na says

    January 10, 2017 at 1:02 PM

    i guess not

    Reply
    • Ann H Tearle says

      February 1, 2017 at 2:27 PM

      Don’t assume that – until we hear from Ken himself, just keep on writing when you can. A friend of Team Diviney. Annie

      Reply
  12. na says

    December 19, 2016 at 5:15 PM

    is this site still active?

    Reply
  13. Ann H Tearle says

    December 18, 2016 at 2:40 PM

    Thinking of you and always with love, hope and prayers. SHSP NGA. I hope you can feel the support you are getting from all of us. You matter and will never, ever be irrelevant. Annie xoxo

    Reply
  14. Amy says

    November 23, 2016 at 7:31 AM

    Havent seen any posts lately and i am really hoping everything is OK with you all. Continue to think of you all and send our well wishes. Happy Thanksgiving!

    Reply
  15. Xiom Q says

    June 25, 2016 at 12:55 PM

    If we had a time machine, everyone who knows about this and cares would have stopped the attackers from hurting your son, and that would be the first place we would go. I know that we would, and many of us are strangers. To meet heroes like you and your son would be amazing. And it isn’t fair. It is sad that Ryan`s attackers did not try to control themselves, or try to help you in any way that they can. It is common decency to help another, to not kick a man when he is down, to help them when they are hurt. So I feel pity for them, his attackers, who will never understand what it is like to know a wonderful man like your son Ryan.

    Reply
  16. Ann H Tearle says

    June 25, 2016 at 9:07 AM

    Are you guys OK? WV flooding – were you far enough away from this? Prayers always for you guys with love, Annie

    Reply
    • Ann H Tearle says

      November 20, 2016 at 5:23 PM

      Thinking of you Team Diviney – Please know I am SHSP NGA and love, Annie

      Reply
  17. Gail Doyle says

    June 21, 2016 at 4:55 AM

    No it is not fair Ken My heart breaks for you and family And I can only offer you my prayers and good thoughts ❤️

    Reply
  18. Andrea says

    June 20, 2016 at 10:44 PM

    My son knew Ruan at WVU. He participated in fundraising for him. I’m so sorry you and your family. I have one of the t-shirts and think about him when I wear it.

    Reply

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