People are asking how Ryan’s eyes are doing since the tarsorrphaphy. More precisely, since he had the plastic reinforcements and a couple of stitches removed last week. The short answer is they seem fine. I think.
It’s hard to tell though, because his eyes are still basically sewn shut. There is just the slightest openings near the nose. It makes it extremely difficult to assess the health of his eyes without the proper equipment and a trained doctor. This is where Dr. Hinkle is so helpful. I’m looking forward to having him see Ryan on Thursday.
I’m hoping this small opening is enough to allow visual input when Ryan’s eyes are centered and down.
Here’s a picture I took of his eyes just a day or two ago. Don’t be alarmed by the thick moisture around them. This is the antibiotic ointment and the routinely administered eye moisturizing drops.
Ryan’s eyes should open more, but not entirely. The stitches are designed to pop sequentially (i.e., think of this as a zipper) over six weeks. The optimum outcome is for 1/3 of his lids to be open while to remaining 2/3 are held shut; by both the stitches and his upper and lower eyelid blood vessels crossing over.
I miss seeing his deep brown eyes. Truth is, I miss everything about him. It hurts. It’s even worse to see Sue hurt. There’s nothing that will make her feel better, only my ineffective attempts to comfort her when the tears start to flow (and swallow my urge to join her).
There’s plenty of time for me to cry later, when it won’t fuel the raging sorrow… I have the rest of my life.
I cannot imagine being in Ryan’s place, just hope he knows that this procedure will benefit his sight in the long run.
We have been away for quite a while. That tiny keyboard on my cell phone is quite a challenge, but have been keeping up with your posts and the comments they have generated. My comments will be here, too, now, but I am always with you in prayer, love, thought and spirit.
Sending much love your way. SHSP, NEGA
Love & hugs, thinking of you two strong men, praying for you today and every day … hoping you get to sit outside in the sun and cool autumn air, and know how much you are thought about and loved.
I too believe in Ryan and I keep praying for him also. If I didn’t have faith that something good will happen for Ryan, I would not spend my time saying prayers for him. I continue to believe God is helping him and that He will continue doing so. God is not responsible for the bad things that happen to good people; Evil is who’s responsible. Believe in God and have faith that He is hearing our prayers and helping Ryan. God Bless your family.
Rita Caporicci Hoop via Facebook says
We love you so much, Ryan! Give Mom and Dad a big hug for us and tell them to keep hanging in there. Lifting you all up in prayer always <3
Carla Liberty says
As always, SHSP, NGA. Team Diviney is stronger than ever.
Sending love & hugs,
Jane Martellino says
Still here and still sharing your updates daily with our YGR nationwide team. We promise to keep Ryan in our hearts and prayers.
Just wanted to let you know, I am here. Checking on Ryan, reading and thinking of all of you. I can’t help or undo this horrible thing that has happened to Ryan and your family. I can just tell you that he is very loved and not forgotten.
Shelly Weese McCauley via Facebook says
Thinking of the Divineys… All the time.
Why not cry with her, why wait? Anger is a great emotion! It keeps your heart strong and pumps that boiling blood.
Getting ready for the Declutter
Will Nier says
God Bless him.
Ramina Khaziran via Facebook says
May God bless Ryan with a miracle, and you and the rest of your family with peace and strength. Prayers going your way <3
Gail Doyle says
Ken, Thanks for update, was wondering how Ryan’s eyes were doing.It makes me sad to see Ryan with his eyes stitched,but know this has to be to keep his eyes healthy, so when he’s well ,he’ll see properly.Hoping they heal more in the next weeks .Thinking of you and Sue and wish there was a way to heal your pain. Just know we’re all here and miracles Do happen .Ryan will be one!!!!!!!
Ken, I am crying with you; I know your’s and Sue’s pain cuts right into your souls. I love you two and I love Ryan — all of us on Team Diviney love and care for you and your family. We are here for you, which probably doesn’t ease the heartache and sadness you feel, but it’s still the truth. And we believe in Ryan. I’ve come to understand what you’ve often said about anger fueling you and keeping you strong. It’s a powerful motivator to keep things moving and not surrender. The heartache, if left unchecked, could be immobilizing. I still have great hope for Ryan — I always have, and this has not changed. I am undaunted; I have faith.
Sending you many hugs, much love and the promise that we will always be here for you, Sue, Ryan and Kari. Praying all the day long for healing, peace, hope and renewal.
People mistakenly believe anger to be a “negative” emotion. To me it’s just an emotion, albeit powerful, and what a person does with it defines its equivalence.
Perfectly stated. As the song goes “I was blind, but now I see.”
Julie Bragg via Facebook says
As always, it is heart wrenching to read what Ryan physically and his family emotionally is having to go through because of monsters. I get chills and feel sick to my gut every time I read updates. I can not even begin to imagine what you all have to go through on a daily basis. Prayers for healing and miracles through the blood of Jesus Christ for Ryan and some shred of peace for his loved ones. Thinking of you all.