Last week I came across an interesting article on cnn.com. It is titled How to Respond to Online Haters. It’s a comprehensive article that involves more than blogs. It talks about Facebook, Tweeter, and so on.
I need to tell you, I read it with a great deal of interest because it rings entirely true. It’s about those trolls that pop in-and-out looking to cause a reaction by making vengeful comments or by simply choosing a “thumbs down” on others comments.
The article validated what I thought all along. These are individuals who are:
- wanting to cause a reaction,
- jealous they don’t have a popular social platform,
- hide in the shadows (probably behind a dumpster too),
- using the success of another’s blog to make their point, and
- crying to be noticed, they crave attention.
Take a second to look at those five points again. I’ll wait.
Well? What do you think?
First, their “opinions” carry zero weight with me. I know the truth. Further, do they really believe they will sway anyone’s opinion? It’s crazy when their comments are often longer than my post. The courtroom was packed with people and media. They know the truth too, and are not shy about sharing it. Really, if push comes to shove, anyone can buy the trial and sentencing transcripts.
Second, I’m not inclined to block these people. Why? Simple. The blogs explodes with activity when they enter they conversation. Beyond this, I can feel the loyalty of readers strengthening. Think about it, the most commented post I ever put out was Austin Vantrease Request: Denied. It had very little to do with my actual post, and almost everything to do with an inappropriate comment. So, yes, it’s good to know how to deal with haters… but never become one.
Don’t get me wrong, I will never understand why they are mean to a victim, his family, and his supporters. Dr. Diane Hamilton (see related article below) describes it as a lack of “Emotional Intelligence”. Really, most people just don’t think that way (do they?). I’d be willing to wager it’s not as personal as I might think. I suppose they are like this with everyone in the world.
Just my take on this, but I believe they hate because others are loved.
- The Haters: Three Ways to Nuke a Hater (socyberty.com)
- Generation of Haters Hiding Behind Social Media Anonymity (drdianehamilton.wordpress.com)