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Guest Post: What Ryan Missed & Pride in His Sister

September 2, 2014 by Ryan's Rally LLC 15 Comments

by Karen Tiplady 

What Ryan has missed:

  • His 21st Birthday – a rite of passage.
  • Bryce Harper, Stephen Strasburg, RG III, Kurt Cousins and other athletic happenings . . . Ryan loved the Atlanta Braves but also loved the Nats, football, and was a big fan of the girls ;-D
  • His College Graduation – I prayed for him during our daughter’s graduation procession, knowing that he was missing his own. Ryan and Kaitlyn were the same age, grade and the best of friends. How could we be so truly blessed to be in Lane Stadium at Virginia Tech watching our daughter graduate with speakers First Lady Michele Obama and Senator Mark Warner while Ryan was in a makeshift hospital room at our dear friends, the Diviney’s house, down the street from where we live . . . there but by the grace of God go us, thankful for that, yet tragically impacted by what happened to Ryan.
  • Seeing his friends graduate and scatter off in all directions – They move on at this age and take jobs or go to grad school in various cities. Ryan, however, is stuck in time. What I find curious are the multitudes of people that have been called to help see the Diviney’s through, and I personally know that the Diviney’s are thankful, as Ken has expressed, in his so many articles.
  • Five World Famous Tiplady Memorial Day Camping Trips – next year will be our 38th annual, and it is epic! I can’t seem to find a good picture of Ryan camping with us and wish that I could. If anyone that reads this has a good pic, I would love it if you could share it with me. This is no ordinary camping trip. It is Tiplady style! Anyone who has been can testify to that. Ryan loved joining us each year, and we continue to feel his absence each year. I can’t help but watch his friends and wish he could be there beside them enjoying life.
  • Tiplady Basement Remodel – it actually bothered me when we were doing this because I knew that Ryan wouldn’t recognize the place, much like his own home that has been remodeled.
  • Finding out what Ryan would be doing – would he be in law school, or doing something else? Would he be falling in love with “the one” or would he still be playing the field looking for the love of his life. What would he dream up with his high school friends Adam, Tommy, Chris, Kyle, Kaitlyn, Jess, and Becca. My Mom always wanted to live long enough to find out what both of our daughters would do. She saw both of them off in the morning from elementary school through high school graduation. She fished her wish knowing that Brittany was doing great as a special education math teacher, and she got to see Kaitlyn get started with school psychology. In fact, my Mom passed away sat the age of 86 just 7 months after Kaitlyn departed for grad school. I am glad that she got to know what they were maturing into and find it ironic that Ryan at the age of 24 never got the opportunity to do the same . . . such a tragedy, impacting so many . . . The Divineys, our daughter, and many friends . . . even us, he was one of our neighborhood boys . . . the whole situation so incomprehensible and senseless.
  • Kari’s High School and College Graduations, and now, Kari starting her first real job – She has lost so much, given up so much – yes, she is one of the original 3 people that said “We got this” along with Ken and Sue. I admire her for her strength, dedication, and resolve. It makes me sad that she has lost so much. And, she has done this freely, without selfishness, with understanding, with selflessness, supporting her parents, and supporting Ryan. Ken had to miss her high school graduation for God’s sake, because Ryan was too unstable at that time and transportation was still a huge issue – thank you Koons for donating that van – an effort mastered by Kari, herself.

Kari, this is my message for you: I want you to know that Ryan would be proud of you because I know that he always was proud of you. Know this in your heart. When your name came up I could see the pride in his eyes. Ryan’s and Kaitlyn’s classmates were often at our place, while you and your friends were often at another neighbor’s house, just two doors away. Sometimes there were intersections between the groups, in appropriate high school hierarchical style. Also, know that we wish you the very best in your career pursuits. You have handled yourself with grace and optimism in the most trying situation I have ever personally known. You give your parents much comfort and joy watching you blossom into adulthood, and that is the best of medicines for them. Know that you have done the right thing and risen above the unimaginable. You are a very loyal young lady, and you have what it takes. Your family, friends and your future employers will undoubtedly benefit from from your awesome attitude, brains, outlook, kindness, and loyalty. Know that you are simply the best!

Love you Divineys!

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Comments

  1. Anna says

    September 2, 2014 at 6:58 PM

    We all have that neighbor who we can count on for the borrowed eggs, cup of sugar, can of chicken broth or whatever to finish a recipe. It is clear that the Diviney family can count on the Tiplady family for that and so much more. God bless both families.

    Reply
  2. David Chagnon says

    September 2, 2014 at 6:10 PM

    When I think of the wonderful things robbed from Ryan, family of his own, contributing to society; it makes my heart hurt, I can’t imagine you’ll make it through everyday! Always saying a prayer for all of you!

    Reply
  3. Gayle says

    September 2, 2014 at 5:01 PM

    That was absolutely the best article, very heartwrenching!

    Reply
  4. Catherine Brown via Facebook says

    September 2, 2014 at 4:52 PM

    God Bless You

    Reply
  5. Patti Shelton McComb via Facebook says

    September 2, 2014 at 4:20 PM

    Well said

    Reply
  6. Paula says

    September 2, 2014 at 2:16 PM

    Karen, thank you for this honest and beautifully written article. I am always grateful when someone who has known Ryan for so long shares memories of the many good times. It gives those of us who didn’t know Ryan prior to the terrible attack a better idea of who he is. It does my heart good to read of all the wonderful experiences he shared with great people such as your family. It also helps to know those same amazing people still stand behind Ryan in spite of the sorrow they feel. On a personal level, I feel privileged to know the Divineys as well as you and your family. I’m grateful to have met some of Ryan’s beautiful friends (Katie Mesmer comes to mind). Meeting the Diviney family and their friends is a reminder to me that fantastic people with big hearts still walk the planet. This encourages me to focus on what’s good and not allow those who create and cause pain to infect my worldview. It’s all this goodness and love that surrounds Ryan and knowing the grace of Jesus Christ is in him that daily fosters my hope in Ryan’s continued healing.

    Much love, prayers and gratitude
    Paula

    Reply
  7. Rita Caporicci Hoop via Facebook says

    September 2, 2014 at 1:56 PM

    <3

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  8. Rita says

    September 2, 2014 at 1:46 PM

    Still so heartbreaking… Our love and respect for Ryan and his incredible family just keep growing, and yes: We got this, Kari, Sue and Ken! Thank you for sharing your family’s heart with us once again, Karen <3

    Reply
  9. Carla Liberty says

    September 2, 2014 at 12:47 PM

    You captured so much in this post, Karen. It is poignant, beautiful, and heart-wrenching all in one. SHSP, NGA. <3 carla

    Reply
  10. Jennifer Paynter via Facebook says

    September 2, 2014 at 11:23 AM

    Beautiful message! I think of Ryan and his family every single day since I found out about them from Ride to Give. It bothers me so bad .

    Reply
  11. Jennifer Paynter via Facebook says

    September 2, 2014 at 11:23 AM

    Beautiful message! I think of Ryan and his family every single day since I found out about them from Ride to Give. It bothers me so bad .

    Reply
  12. PK Miller says

    September 2, 2014 at 11:02 AM

    I’ve said many times, I cannot know what your pain is like. So many milestones missed, among other things. There is EVIL in this world, alas, and sometimes innocent people are maimed by this evil–e.g. that soldier who was beheaded. I will say that no one knows what Ryan may comprehend in some way, deep inside him. The human brain works in very mysterious, different ways. And brain injuries are a “funny” kind of “animal.” There was a story in Sunday’s (Albany NY) Times Union about a woman who has written a book about coping with her sister’s brain injury caused by carbon monoxide poisoning. The woman is high functioning but has cognitive deficits, mood swings, etc.
    Take heart that perhaps Ryan is with you in spirit. I’ve said many times, I don’t know why bad things happen to good people. Today would’ve been my parents’ 83rd anniversary. We had to finally place my mom in a nursing home when her physical & mental impairments coupled w/the sudden disability of her long time “mom sitter” made it impossible for us to continue to maintain her in our home. We were–& are–very busy men and even 20 years ago, 24/7 live in care was unavailable at any price (except Hospice). I don’t know why mom suffered like she did. I don’t know why Ryan was so viciously attacked & left permanently disabled. I commend you all for your faith and strength. None of us knows what we are capable of until we are dealt such a hand. But I know LOVE means everything. Ryan feels that love. And again, only God knows what Ryan may comprehend but be unable to express. I’m sorry he has missed so many milestones, espec. Kari’s graduation, job, etc. But perhaps he is aware in some recess of his mind. Again, he certainly feels, is aware of the great LOVE.
    God bless you all.
    PK & Tim

    Reply
  13. Gail Doyle says

    September 2, 2014 at 10:47 AM

    Karen,
    Beautiful post…, thanks.

    Reply
  14. Leslie Miller via Facebook says

    September 2, 2014 at 10:23 AM

    That sums up so much for this family. I pray for them daily.

    Reply
  15. Paul Rapsawich via Facebook says

    September 2, 2014 at 10:10 AM

    That was absolutely the best article, ever. Ryan has missed out on so much, and I pray everyday that he’ll be returned to his family sooner rather than later. Stay strong Divineys!!!!

    Reply

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