People sometimes call me arrogant. I suppose that’s because I’m almost always right (that’s a joke, folks). Hey, I do see some truth in it and don’t back away from it. To me, arrogance is a confidence… with attitude. I realize arrogance might just as easily come from being presumptuous and snobbish, but this just doesn’t fit me.
I equally believe, in a large part, it’s not just making one’s position known and belittling those who disagree. It’s possessing the superior expertise and authority to defend and support it. It involves insulting another’s intelligence on a given subject, when necessary. It’s not polite, but sometimes discrediting another’s knowledge is proper (and flat-out fun). Granted, it doesn’t strengthen an arrogant individual’s given position, but it creates distance between opposing arguments.
I took this approach in a post earlier this week, Pull the Plug. I used arrogance to reject arrogance. Mine comes from superior knowledge of coma patients. Meanwhile the people I spoke about had arrogance coming from being presumptuous. In other words, they are ignorant to the subject, yet acted like an authority. Wrong! I pick my battles. For instance, I will always minimize those who incorrectly spout off about what’s right for caregivers. On the other hand, I can assure you I would never come across as arrogant on knowing what women want. I’m not even sure they know what they want! Oh boy, I’m sure I’ll be hearing from the women on that comment. Just be careful not to come across as arrogant (not that I would even know it anyhow). Men… now that’s easy.I really don’t believe I strut around looking down my nose at people. Being pompous simply takes too much effort for a guy like me who is always looking for efficiency. There’s no benefit is me generally behaving this way. People will be put off by it and this wouldn’t help Ryan’s cause.
Hey, I’m not too hung-up when people dislike me, but I’m not naturally disagreeable. Unless, that is, you’re married to me. Obviously, I prefer being liked. Still, there are some people that I just don’t care about. Taking this a bit further, there are some that I truly hope hate me with a passion.
When people call me arrogant I know they are trying to insult me. But, like most flaws in debate and argument, they foolish try to shift the focus from the topic to the opposition. From my position, this is their white flag of surrender. They have nothing more to offer other than grotesques assertions. The beauty about this is they can be equally grotesquely denied. For example:
Them: You’re arrogant.
Me: No, I’m not.
But… I’d probably look down my nose at them while responding.