If you read my post yesterday you might recall the mention of pity sex. This seemed to prompt many to ask how Sue (my wife of 25 years) is doing. Really? This was the connection made?
I might also add, this interest seemed to only stem from women. Might I even be so bold as to predict these women are married… or at least not lesbian? This has me worried. Apparently, we men (and especially husbands) are not the sexual dynamo studs we envision ourselves. How can this possibly be true? Say it ain’t so.
To me, this new found pity sex knowledge is a game-changer. How did I go so long without picking up on it? It’s now in my arsenal of deplorable, underhanded tactics. Women might have the “honey do” list, but you must know, men have the “boink list”. It’s a mental inventory of wooing options. We would never write this list down! EVER! Just know it exists and men will carry it to their graves. You can’t even dominate this out of us (although, this just might be on the list… but you’ll never know).
One more thing before I get off my soap box (that was probably built by a man). Why do women have such a tiny window between being amorous and asleep? It’s already difficult enough without timing your circadian rhythm perfectly.
Anyhow, what can I say about Sue? I suppose, given the circumstances, she is holding up as well as possible. Like me, she has times that are rougher than others. But, it’s always rough. Every second. So, it’s all relative. Her optimism and determination are unrelenting when it comes to Ryan’s recovery. She’s truly an outstanding, loving mother to Ryan and Kari. She doesn’t deserve to see her child like this.
Although the past twenty-two months hasn’t placed an unmanageable strain on us, our relationship has changed. It many ways, for the better. For one, we mastered communication between us. Sometimes, we don’t even say a word to get our thoughts across. We learned this through exchanging information in crisis that sometimes hinged on life or death.
Still, you might see how not having any privacy can put a damper on intimacy. It’s just another element stolen from us by these thugs. For those who are about ready to tell me this is not healthy for us I can only tell you that I know. It’s not like we want this. We didn’t ask for it. We didn’t plan for it. Neither Sue nor I will leave him without the other there. It’s a mutual decision and we’ve accepted this as our lives and marriage. We are parents before we are spouses (or anything else, for that matter). Although it is a painful existence to live this way (especially in the testicles), I admire Sue for this.
I hope she feels the same about me.
[poll id=”22″] See previous poll answers here.
- Pity Party: Table for One, Please. (ryansrally.org)
- French Man Forced to Pay Ex-Wife a Settlement for Lack of Sex (newsfeed.time.com)