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Ryan Should be with You, Kari.

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Where did the summer go? To me, it ended yesterday when Kari left for the fall semester at WVU. She was my summer since this time of year is now void of things like vacations and baseball games. I miss her so much. So much it actually hurts.

Ryan takes Kari to a WVU game two years ago. He showed Kari off all weekend.

I watched, through the haze of tears, as the car drove away, from the basement window that looks out on the street. Ryan was right next to me and I instinctively reached over and held his hand. I felt that familiar heartache for the life Ryan is missing. A life that was beaten out of him.

Both the foregone summer and the upcoming semester are nothing more than days of what might have been. Ryan should have been in that car with her. He should have been on his way to complete his senior year with the fun of tailgating, football games, and being with friends he loves (but are now moving on).

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  1. Ken & Sue – Charlie left to head back to Morgantown yesterday. I thought about Ryan all morning while I was helping Charlie pack the jeep and especially after seeing his Team Diviney shirt on the top of his t-shirt stack. Ryan should be there with him and the gang but know that he is still in their thoughts every day. I know they see his smile and think of him at every familiar turn in Morgantown and they miss him being there very much. (It seems like yesterday that the triple of boys were moving in next door to Charlie at Brooke Tower with that big ass TV into the tiny room when we first met you all!) Ryan is making great strides and you should be very proud of his drive and will to get better. I’m excited to hear about the van! That is wonderful news. Keep up the good work and know that we all love you and pray for you every day. The Beebes – Lori, Bill, Charlie & Whit

  2. I’m so sorry for your pain. I can’t imagine it. Ryan should be at school right now, no doubt about it. Please know though that Ryan’s friends are still here. I know that he is never far from their thoughts. The pain of Ryan not being with them is still very raw. Those thugs robbed a lot of people a lot of love. Still here.

  4. Ken and Sue,

    The pain of a child moving out or on with their own life is incredibly painful for most parents. That along with missing that Ryan is not able to do that now is heart wrenching.

    The progress he has made is amazing. I truly believe now more than ever that he will progress to a point that he will be able to finish his education. You keep doing the hard work at home with him, and we will continue to still be here and still praying.
    Much love, Jen

  5. My son Nicholas is in Ryan’s year at WVU and I ‘ve been following and praying for you daily since he told us about the posters you put up hunting for the then unknown attackers. You and Ryan have your own battle albeit more brutal than anyone could have imagined. And you are achieving small but significant advances. Keep fighting, you are tough and you have the greatest weapon within you and supporting you from all directions.

  6. My senior year at University of Delaware coincided with the fall that Ryan got attacked. There was nothing about the attack in the Newark, DE papers until the News Journal ran the Ryan story a year later.

    The fall of my senior year I had a lot of final fun with friends I knew were moving on. It’s such a shame Ryan won’t get to have that.

  7. Ken and Sue,
    Yes, Ryan should be there with Kari…with Brian, Jon, Derris and Duke….I am so, so, so very sorry he is not heading to Morgantown. I have thought about the very same thing this weekend. And while I feel deep pain about what could have been….what should be….right now….I know that it is nowhere near what you are going through. I am unable to make any sense out of this, but I do want to you to know that we will never leave you or abandon Ryan. I can see that there are many people here who love you, pray for you, hope for you and have faith in you and in Ryan’s will to heal. You are doing an outstanding job and I just know Ryan is trying his best to come back to you and to make your family complete once again. The strides he has made in the last several months are incredible. They happen because of your unrelenting love for Ryan and all that you do for him. Stay faithful in your mission and know how much you are loved, especially right now, in the moments when the pain is unbearable. I don’t know if any of this brings you any form of comfort, but I want you to know that we will always be there for you and we will never stop praying for your special miracle. Love always…..Peggie

  8. Can’t imagine how hard this is on the entire family. I pray that all of you continue to persevere and that Ryan continues to make strides toward a 100% recovery.

  10. Know that Ryan is always in his friends thoughts. They could never and will never forget him even though their paths have for now taken a fork in the road.

  11. Ken and Sue, Kari will be happy and do well at school and the day will come when Ryan can go back too Just remember all you and Sue have done for them and always there for them…I only know the last years ,but I,m sure their early years were the same ..That’s all as parents we can do…..Be there for them Hugs to Ryan and Kari and peace to you and Sue SHSP always Love Gail

  12. Why does life have to hurt so much sometimes? And Ryan…to think about all he has been missing…another sharp jab in the soul. Ken, I pray your loving, courageous heart will be soothed.

    I can barely think about my daughter graduating this year…I should be happy, right? Then why is it so damn painful?? At least we can remind ourselves we have given them every bit of love we have and that we will always be there for them.

    Look at all the ways you and Sue have shown your love for your children throughout their lives, Ken. They know this and will not forget it. Kari can go on her way, strong, happy and confident, because you and Sue instilled that within her. And Ryan…what comfort it must give him to feel you by his side, holding his hand. Time moves forward, but the love remains…forever.

    Thinking of you, sending hugs, prayers and love your way…Paula

  13. My heart goes out to you, Ken, as always. Know that so many hearts are with you and your family. SHSP NGA. Hang in there, Ken. We’ve got this.

  17. I just can’t imagine how this feels. These things are hard enough under normal circumstances.
    Best we can do is stay, pray and simply help out.

  19. We are there for you Ken. We still think about Ryan and your whole family. You continue to be our inspiration. Sending lots of love to you all.
    Evelyn

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