For today, I’m not going to put out a post that says much. I’m in an ire. Also, to me (at least in the past), Sundays are meant to unwind. No sense ruining my day even more and yours right along with me. Anyhow, it’s been bothering me — a lot — since last night when I first received a text from Sue. It hit me hard.
Then Kari sent me a text a while later. Sue was crying. She was crying at a wedding, and not from joy. This is a happy occasion. A day of celebration, hope, and recognition. To us, it takes on the opposite.
Mind you, this is nothing that hasn’t affected us in the past. But, we are forced to fast-forward in our lives a few years and see what we’ll be missing. Talk about a smack in the face. A bucket of cold water thrown. Getting screwed in the ass before getting the pants down.
So, sit tight. I have a few things to say tomorrow.
gail weingarten says
all i can say is we know exactly how you feel.
Can anyone really say anything to make you feel any better, probably not. Can we continue to be there for Ryan and your entire family – always. I can only imagine the pain your family feels as you watch other move on with the next step of their lives. Just know that you don’t feel that pain alone. There are many many people out here that have adopted your family and especially Ryan. We all hope, pray and continue to wait for the next bit of good news. It may not come as fast as we would like, but it’s always welcome. I hope that the ultimate good news comes sooner rather than later – what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. We all love Ryan and won’t ever leave you, I hope that’s some comfort to you.
The Colangelis says
Ken, I am saddened Ryan and the family continue suffering. Evil exists in this world and there is a lot of it. I beleive God is helping Ryan. How many fathers are out there that could do what you do? The life change you’ve made, the effort you put forth every day, all the challenges you’ve faced and the ability to navigate through them…. it’s unbelievable as the list can go on and on. Ryan is blessed by God by the fact that you are his father. Ryan is blesssed by your making every effort to help him, you are smart, and you are dedicated to his well-being and recovery. We always keep up with these reports on Ryan’s progress and we continue our daily prayers for Ryan and your family. God bless you.
Anna Welsh says
Ken, I am also sorry for your future loss! But instead of my usual “thumbs down” today I have a thumbs up!! I worked today at the nursing rehab facility I have been working in for the past 9 months or so. Usually I work upstairs with the people who are anticipating home discharge, the broken hips, knee repairs, open heart surgeries, stroke patients, patients on a ventilator trying to wean off, etc. Working extra today for some reason I was assigned downstairs to the long term care floor, a floor I had never been oriented on and a floor I was told was a “piece of cake”. It was not!
Anyway, point of story, took care of a 50 year old gentleman who like Ryan was assaulted by some thugs, as a result, he had brain damage, seizures, was being tube fed, recieving balfocon and all other meds via peg tube. He had pillows, things to keep hands and feet from curling up in contractures, you know the scene. Everytime I went in to do something for him his eyes were wide open, looking at me, so hard to tell what he was seeing, thinking, or hearing. I talked to him, opened his windows and blinds, turned his tv on, did everything I thought I would do if it was Ryan I was taking care of. I thought of you, Sue and Kari, the incredible job you are doing with Ryan, the lifestyle changes you have made to keep Ryan out of a facility. You are lucky and exceptional in what you are able to do for Ryan, many families are not financially, physically or willing to do what you all do. Is it easy?? Absolutely not! But after seeing this unfortunate gentleman today, I can’t begin to tell you how much your work is doing for Ryan. The pics of Ryan and my patients are no comparison. I am sure his family loves him too, but you, Divineys, are EXCEPTIONAL. As I said before, FRONT ROW SEATS IN HEAVEN for the Divineys, including Ryan! We love you Ken!!!
Keri Dezell says
Ryan, Ken, Sue and Kari,
May you find comfort in knowing that someone like me (and there are so many of us) that has never had the pleasure of meeting any of the Diviney Family are…
Still here. Still PRAYING. Still hoping. Still PRAYING. Still wishing. Still PRAYING. Still loving. Still PRAYING. Still willing. Still PRAYING. Still watching. Still PRAYING. Still waiting. Still PRAYING. Still typing. Still PRAYING. Still thinking. Still PRAYING. Still anticipating. Still PRAYING… and here we will remain until RYAN is healed.
I pray that you find comfort in the knowing, that we will remain RELENTLESS in our prayer and in our hope that Ryan and your family be well. Whatever it takes, as long as it takes, to see Ryan and your family through. That’s how much RYAN, your family and your journey has touched us and yet we’ve never met?! A miracle unto itself. Your family is very special, no doubt. I pray that the positive energy and relentless prayers surrounding you comes back to RYAN and each of you tenfold, like a boomerang relieving you of your heartbreak.
We are here… and here we will remain until your Ryan is healed.
In love and in prayer,
Keri, My Frankie and Family
Gail Doyle says
Ken ,So sorry for the hurt you and Sue and Kari feel ,but one day Ryan will be healed and you will all go through normal things again .My heart aches for you all ,but I know deep down things will get better .We are all here for you Ryan ,Sue and Kari. please believe that.I know now nothing can make things easier for you ,but we are all here Praying that everything will work put for the best. .Peace to you Ken and give that boy Ryan a big hug and one for you too SHSP. Love Gail
Oh Ken, I am so sorry. Whatever it is you have to say, we are here for you, Sue, Ryan and Kari. We love you all, respect each one of you very much, and believe in everything you’re doing for your wonderful family. I’m feeling ire just because you’re feeling it — it pains all of us to know you are suffering. Here for you — in thought, word and spirit. Love & prayers,
There are no words to comfort you and Sue as grieving parents. We are just so, so sorry for the pain you carry with you every day, even as you love on Ryan with everything you’ve got and then some, and even though you have every reason to keep hope alive for his continued recovery… life is just not the same for you as a family. Thank God that Sue has Kari with her to hold onto for comfort and that you have each other to love and share the pain. We pray that there will be times of joy to share again as a beautiful family of 4 very soon too. You are all loved so much by so many — wish we could wrap you together in a huge hug right now <3
I wish we could embrace them all too, Rita…
Ken, Sue and Kari,
So, so very sorry you are facing and dealing with such pain right now. It catches up some times when we just aren’t expecting it to grab and choke us that way. Hope you can find a way to roll with it, although I cannot imagine how… Just know that we love you all very much. Our prayers are forever with you. Much love being sent your way today.
Ken, I’m sorry. Your family deserves better. So much better. I am so sorry this happened to all of you.
Jo Hobbs says
Ken if we thought we could be of greater, significant comfort to be there in person, we would fight the road construction from here to Ashburn! Still here with love.
Carla Liberty says
Aching for you. Pissed right along with you. Still here, not going anywhere.