Last week, I had a text exchange with a long time friend of Ryan’s, Katie Mesmer. Katie’s father, Marty, died earlier this month. As we were texting, I became an emotional wreck. Not just for what I’m going through, but for her and her family.
I was, once again, reminded of the excellent choices my children made with who they associated with. They surround themselves with quality friends. People of high moral character.
I must have read this text fifty times. It’s funny how things continue to influence our lives long after the occurrence. Weird though, we never seem to grasp the significance when it is happening.
Katie: I miss [my dad] 🙁
Me: It’s the most intense human emotion… missing a loved one. At least that’s how I think.
Katie: It is 🙁 Missing someone isn’t about how long it’s been since you’ve seen them last or the amount of time since you’ve talked. It’s about that very moment when you’re doing something, and you wish that they were right there with you 🙁 I have a feeling it’s going to be very hard not to wish he was there every second.
Me: Well said.
Katie: I miss Ryan. He helped me so much when [my dad] first got sick when I was in 7th grade 🙁 He’d call me every night 🙁
Me: I miss Ryan too. You now know the heartache and despair I feel. I wish you didn’t.
Katie: How is he doing? I read the post you put about me and my dad. Cried for 45 minutes. The nicest thing ever… and my dad was really proud of me. He loved Ryan so much. Thought the world of him. How funny he was and how much he knew about sports. I know a piece of the heartache. I don’t think anyone will feel the pain you do… which I wish, more than anything, you didn’t have to feel.
Me: Ryan loved your dad too. Hang in there, Princess Katie.
Katie: Haha. Love you. You hang in there too.
Then, I cried…