Well! What a welcome surprise seeing Sue’s post, The Wife’s Turn! It appears many agree, as yesterday was the highest read weekend day yet. All those in favor of Sue doing at least a weekend post (even at my peril) give me an Aye!
We had to laugh when Washington Post author, Paul Schwartzman, texted me asking if Sue was referring to the “watching porn and smoking cigars in our underwear” in her post. I texted back “It now defines me”. For those who are wondering what I’m talking about, just follow the link to Paul’s article A Fathers Vigil (12/5/2010).
And, yes, I wished Sue a Happy Valentine’s Day. She deserves a happy day. I hope I do, in small ways, make Valentine’s last throughout the year. I try, although sometimes half-assed. My feeling is, half is better than none. I’m just a big box a chocolate all year… irresistible, but something that should be avoided. 🙂 Best to take me in small doses. A living, breathing dopamine.
So, with Sue’s post, many will now see what draws me to her. Strength. Intelligence. Beauty. Wit (yes, it’s true). Devotion. I’m not sure what it is that keeps her interested in me. I try not to think about it for too long because it scares me that I might discover that she just pities my (half) ass.
Not sure why I’m cussing like a sailor today. I’ll clean it up. Hope I’m not making a bum of myself. Well, um, at least not more than usual. Did I mention I’m irresistible? Okay, let’s just leave it that I’m tolerable.
HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY, SUE!
AYE!
(After all, there’s nothing like a woman’s touch :-D)
p.s. We love you, Sue!!!! You are one of the sweetest, most beautiful people I have ever met!!
Ken
I am always Happy seeing you post on here because you may not know it but you make our day! From what Your Family are gone thru to keep up the good humor is nice to see. And it was Great seeing Sue post on here also. It broke My Heart her Heart Breaking like it is but with God and all her friends and family she will get through it. Like i told her i just couldnt imagine what you are all going through. But I will continue and Pray each day that Ryan will be a Walking, Talking, Miracle! God Bless You All!
The truth hurts the May and Vantrease family and supporters and they do not want others to hear the truth. Sue is speaking truth when she posts here, heart wretching, pain of a mother that most mothers in our society can feel over the internet. A mother suffering the loss of her well son, a mother suffering the burden of medical bills beyond our wild imagination, a mother suffering from the loss of her family and the life they had. Too bad for the May andVantrease family that they do not want to hear or help. Their character of the thumbs down action comes out again as is did at the trial and sentencing. Do they have no shame?
Aye!
Together you are showing many, many people what marriage is all about.
Happy Valentine’s Day to you…Ken, Sue, Kari and Ryan…an ultimate example of true and inspiring LOVE for us all!
xo Peggie
Aye, I definately want to hear more from Sue, no offense Ken, you are both wonderful in revealing your feelings in print and I believe it’s beneficial for both of you to get it out there. Feel the love guys. You have a faithful group of listeners. We are still here and not going anywhere.
What’s with all the THUMBS DOWN posts on such positive and uplifiting messages? Did Nurse Ratched decide to pay a visit between smokes and breaking toilet seats? Grow up! We love you Diviney family 🙂
I was wondering this myself, so I looked into it. The IP address is almost certainly connected with the Vantrease family.
Gee, now aren’t we all just SHOCKED. Good, at least they know what is going on, what damage they caused and how much you all are loved. Bring it.
Well I hope they read Sue’s post about how inconsiderate they are and I also hope that these family’s realize that we’re more than supporters of Ryan, we’ll for sure become one big pain in their buts when it comes to any discussions of parole. They don’t know what forces they really have against them. As Team Diviney grows larger and stronger, so shall they be weaker and so much smaller.
Aye!!!! Enjoy hearing from you both ,but mostly want to hear Ryan is getting better and better. You seem to have such a loving family,which is a wonderful gift and I feel that love and all our prayers will help to heal Ryan..SHSP. God Bless you all ~ Gail
AYE! AYE! AYE!
Aye! You both seem to share the load, why not here too. Love hearing from you both. Still here, still praying.
I think it would be wonderful to see Sue posting more often!
You two share a love that one does not often see. It helps me to see the joy in this life, even in the midst of the most difficult of times — your love is still there. Pretty freakin’ awesome!
Aye! Sue had a great post, it was really good to hear from her. Hope to hear more details regarding the IBRF soon.
Aye! Think it would be great therapy for Sue to write as well! You guys are so incredible! I find it amazing that in the midst of your trial, you bring me strength and touch the hearts of so many others! Happy Valentine’s Day Team Diviney!
Aye! I love your posts Ken, but it’s good to hear from Sue, too. I love hearing from both of you. SHSP.
I must say I have been a follower since the “awful” beginning even prior to your blog, and daily I wait to read your next installment of course always praying you’ll say the words we all wait to hear “Ryan is awake!”
I agree, Sue needs to write more often…I enjoy her posts just as much. Here is wishing everyone a Happy Valentine’s Day!!! Have been praying since the beginning and will continue to do so.
An Ashburn friend…
We have that loving feeling for the entire Diviney family and Happy Valentines Day to mom, dad, Kari, and especially Sir Ryan. 3>
It is because Ryan is surrounded by such a loving & talented family as well as all the supporters whose hearts are filled w/compassion, support, faith, hope & love. It is because of the myriad of forces & energies being expressed through, pray, acts of kindness both material and spiritually magical is the reason that Ryan will return. When he will return & to what capacity only time will tell and the plan for Ryan from something or someone much greater in magestic forces than ourselves. The human body is such a complex universe of its own…far more infinate in power & wisdom then most mortals can comprehend. We must all must rally each & every upcoming day even harder than days before & as often as the day shall allow us time.
My own son was kicked in the temple while being assaulted. He nearly died, had brain surgery for the fist size hematoma which was pushing against his breain stem & remained in a coma for 2 weeks, then after he came back slowly but had to be taught everything we would teach a newborn infant. My son James will never be the same, ever again. TBI (traumatic brain injury) will alter the mind, body, and spirit, in varying degrees for each individual, for the rest of their lives. I cannot tell you what our family has been through not only to try to keep him alive after his assault, then rehab, but the immense anguish & anger this has caused my son James, who was only 19, on Sept. 26th, 2009, when his life was changed forever by being in the wrong place at the wrong time, and kicked several times at one of the most physically vital, & vulnerable places on the human, body which can do the utmost damage & death, his right temple. The several young men from a nearby university here in MD, were never identified; therefore no justice…hah justice….what good would it do now. I am told that a higher power has a plan…one in which we cannot see at the time…it is not visible nor tangible. It is not attainable through our normal, programmed thinking patterns… James has battled w/depression, bipolar, post traumatice stress, and ultimately suicide. He is 23 three now and yes he is alive and can function in many capacities to certain extents & limitation but ultimately he feels robbed and it is none of the material things which were taken from him at the time of the incident but oooh, sooo much more…so much more. I just wanted to share that there are so many of us out there who have suffered varying degree’s of injury & even death at the hands of others…many of whom have no family or friends to help them through. As caregivers, sometimes we fall so weak…rendered so helpless & hopeless…but those times seem short lived compared to some devine intervention which empowers us with the ability to gradually put many of the pieces together, one foot in front of the other, one moment, to one day at a time, while at the same time awakening our brains in ways we never could have imagined…instructing & guiding us to carry out things we never ever could have imagined.
Keep the faith…Ryan & the family will never be alone so long as the sun has rays to shine! 🙂 I wish for all of you many days to come which shall unfold to the most joyous & wonderful days that you could ever dream possible. Days in which you may label & call upon that your hearts desire. I like to make my own holidays & they are the spontaneous ones which are not driven by money & greed..but rather by extremely joyous moments spent with those we love, doing what we love the most.
All my love & so much more, everlasting, maureen 🙂
Excellent post, thank you so much! Love & prayers, Paula
Thank you for sharing your story. There are so many families dealing with Traumatic Brain Injury and for almost 4 years I have wished that there were some site that people like us could share our stories and help each other with what has worked for us. Ultimately, it is up to the families and we are all on a learning curve. It is good to know that a. we are not alone, and b. sad to know that there are so many of us. Bless you, your son, and your family.
You are both incredible and like Rita says, true love. It’s not easy to find, buy harder to maintain and you have both shown that toward each other and your children.
Loved hearing from Sue, always enjoy Ken’s post, but mostly look forward to hearing good news about Ryan.
Happy Valentines Day to the Divineys’ and more progress as you go forward!!
Love it! You two have given each other the most beautiful Valentine’s gift of all — true love, respect and admiration for each other. You’ve modeled it every day for your kids (the greatest gift you can give them as parents) and have now declared it publicly to your adoring Team Diviney family. Aye, aye, Captain!