Please accept my apology for not putting out a post this week. I was consumed with legal affairs. Yesterday was spent on the road for a total of eight hours (round trip), plus around four hours involved in the actual legal process. It was a grueling day, both mentally and physically. Although vital to Ryan, it was rough but I am happy to have said what was needed. What people do with what I said is an entirely different story.
I promise to get caught up on all my correspondence this morning too.
It should not go without mention that yesterday also marked the 3-½ anniversary of the attack by Austin Vantrease and Jonathan May (both of Newark, Delaware). That’s 1,276 days. 30,624 hours. 1,837,440 minutes. 110,246,400 seconds. Each one of those hurt like hell.
One-hundred-and-ten MILLION opportunities for Austin Vantrease and Jonathan May to do the right thing and accept accountability. 110 Million times they failed Ryan… in my opinion.
Yes, I acknowledged this sickening anniversary but decided to focus on the positive. Namely, you.
Despite Vantrease and May completely turning their backs on the damage and harm they inflicted, during those same 110 million seconds you, and people like you, came to Ryan’s cause. You surrounded him with the resources, respect, and love that simply cannot be measured by neither time nor money. Sue and I spent many days (and nights) wondering how we could ever manage this situation… circumstance we and Ryan never asked for.
You have bailed Ryan and us out. I often refer to what it feels like as “being pulled from the wreckage”. Because of you we have not added personal debt. Sure, it took Sue and I throwing our money at this as well, and we know this will always be the case. It also means that my family has ZERO discretionary income. We spend, or save, everything for Ryan. To us, a new pair of shoes for ourselves seems frivolous. Heaven forbid even considering ordering the MLB sports package that Ryan and I once loved. There’s no room for such luxury in the Diviney household. We — or, more accurately, you — have turned the corner and are now actually adding to Ryan’s Special Needs Trust Fund! Let me say this again… Ryan’s Trust Fund is growing! It is slowly starting to acquire a small cushion for his future needs and I am committed to advancing this further.
Sadly, there is a long, long way to go.Once this civil lawsuit is resolved I’d like to start sharing all this information with you. There’s even the potential that I can do this sooner. Some things that I’m excited to show you are: 1) The principal balance of the Ryan Diviney Special Needs Trust Fund, 2) Financial gift contributions through PayPal, 3) Amazon product gifts, 4) The total outstanding financial amounts that Vantrease and May are on the hook for, and so on. Heck, I guess I could even put up all the tax filings. Please let me know if there are other things that would interest you. I want everything to be transparent and readily available to anyone with an interest.
What I envision is adding a page to the website that is formatted like a dashboard with this information. If I can figure out the coding, perhaps I can even make all of this dynamic… real-time. What I mean by that is if a person makes a gift contribution through, say, PayPal then the cleared transaction (minus personal information) will instantly be shown in Ryan’s Trust fund. At a minimum, a quarterly (or even monthly) accounting seems timely enough.
One important thing I ask is for you is to put this information into context. The first benchmark that I hope sticks in your mind is that the civil lawsuit estimates approximately $22 million. That is, in fact, the civil claim filed before the Federal Court.
Brain injury is expensive. No doubt about that.