Some days I have no trouble picking a topic to write on. Others, although not many, are a struggle. Then there are days like today. I know what I want, but don’t exactly know the right way to go about it.
Here’s my issue and I’m sure it’s one many have wrestled with; when is it proper to “unfriend” people on Facebook? Please consider the fallout in support of Ryan as you consider it.
In my case, my personal Facebook account has roughly 750 “friends”. Clearly, I’m not that friendly. Over the past few years people requested me because of their interest in Ryan. I appreciate this. Still, with this website and Ryan’s Fan Page on Facebook, I’d like to get my identity back a bit. I feel I am right in wanting this, but I just don’t know how to approach it. The last thing I want to do is offend anyone who supports my son.
It’s not to say that I haven’t built friendships through this tragedy. I definitely have and would like to keep these alive. These people are easily identifiable through their efforts in re-posting content I write, sending me occasional messages, and my Ryan-related history with them.
So, here’s my plan and I’d like to hear your thoughts on it. By this time anyone I would consider a “friend” must be aware of the anti-parole petition. There’s really no way they could miss it, with all the attention it’s received. My thought is that I could use these 30,000-plus names as a basis for “unfriending” by simply cross-referencing the names. It makes me suspicious when my Facebook friends don’t fit into the petition signing universe. I know, for a fact, that people have friended me that are connected with the defendants. These are girlfriends, buddies, and family members. They are also on Ryan’s Fan Page, but I don’t have a problem with that since I view it— like this website — as open.
The way I see it, a friend would support me in this because it’s a big deal to me. Am I correct to assume if they don’t support this, then by default, I really shouldn’t count on them? In the end I want to make sure I am surrounded by the right people.
What I might do is download the petition signature list this weekend and see how many “friends” are affected. Before clicking the “unfriend” button, I might even send some a personal request to sign the petition.
I hope I’ve thought this through entirely, but want to hear your thoughts, experiences, and risks of doing it. Is there a better way?